Some of the stories that I tell here on this blog page are stories that I have told and retold over the years. The stories may be less true than they once were because as I get older the need to make myself into the hero seems more important to me. The backlash effect of that of course is that I am falling into the “Glory Days Syndrome” also known as the “I Used to be Great Syndrome” or by the lesser known “If I Hadn’t Gotten Injured I Would’ve Gone Pro Syndrome”. This story is not about my one time or enduring greatness, this is a story about experiencing someone’s weakness that ended up displaying my weakness.
I spent many of my summers during and after college working at Christian camps in Wyoming and New Mexico. I served as an archery instructor, mountain bike instructor, rappelling instructor, and rifle range instructor (I would say riflery but my auto correct keeps telling me that is not a word). My very last summer working at the camp in Wyoming saw me spending up to 6 hours a day above any sort of shade teaching people, children and youth specifically, how to rappel. For those of you that are unfamiliar, I taught people how to walk backwards off a 30 foot wooden cliff.
This particular day my associate and me had been up on the tower in the morning and had to go back up for an afternoon session. Jeremy and I had moved past the point in the summer where we appreciated all the sunshine we were getting and were now to the point of trying to get people up and down as quickly as possible. Into our lives came a boy that I will call “Mike”. I would like to say that I changed the name to protect the innocent, but honestly I either forgot or blocked his name out of my memory because I might still be a little angry with him.
In order to go down the tower you have to go up the tower, which requires that each person climb a 30 foot cargo net. Mike showed some apprehension at this point, but so do many of the kids that go up the tower. In other words, Mike did not display any sort of abnormal apprehension at this point so we encouraged him that he was safe and he proceeded clumsily up the cargo net.
Jeremy and I then proceeded through our normal spiel which was a devotion about trusting the rope and not your brain that was telling you that this was not safe and how that was analogous to trusting in God and not leaning on your own understanding. Following the devotion we would show people how to put their gear on and then how they were going to get down. This is when things started to get interesting because I remember Mike slowly working his way to the back of the tower. He was doing what most people do when they feel danger. They distance themselves as much as they can from the thing that threatens them.
Mike had watched a few people go over when we asked him to get on rope. I walked him through the various instructions, made sure his gear was safe and then I asked Mike to turn around and face me. This was not something that Mike was prepared to do. He did not want to turn his back to the thing that threatened him, the wooden ledge. At this point things started to unravel rather quickly.
Wait, you might have taken that to mean that the rope unraveled quickly, it did not, it fact the rope did not go anywhere at this point because Mike was not going anywhere.
Mike had a panic attack, he told me that he was going to puke, then he told me he couldn’t do it, then he tried to run to the back of the tower to sit down (still on rope mind you), then he told me he was going to, well, defecate right there on the tower. Mike was not ready to rappel that day. So we move to phase two which is to have the other instructor walk backward with Mike to the ledge and start down with him. Normally if we can get people over the edge, they go the rest of the way pretty well. It is the first step, that transition from vertical to horizontal, that puts most people into some form of panic.
Phase two did not work and more promises of things coming out of Mike’s body were made. So we moved on to phase three which is to ask Mike to go sit down while we get the rest of the kids down the tower. Even during this phase Mike was freaking out, which did not help get the rest of the kids down. Phase three is to scrap our desire to help Mike through his fears and get him down the tower. So 2 hours after Mike came up the tower, we asked Mike to climb down the cargo net. This was not amendable to Mike, so we tried to get him to rappel again, which was also not amendable to Mike. Mike had one proposal to make, which was not amendable to anyone else, and that was to make the tower his permanent home.
Three hours into this stand off we were finally able to get Mike off the tower. Jeremy and I were hot, both physically and emotionally. Mike’s fears and what they had manifested had taken every bit of our patience and love. We packed up our gear, walked away from the tower, and headed back for our bunk. Halfway back I dropped my harness on accident and in my anger I kicked it with my fake leg.
My leg flew off and hit the bunk house. All I could do after I had landed on my butt outside the door was to lay there and laugh, what else was left. Fear can debilitate and exhaust every one of our resources and the resources of people around us. I wish I had more patience with Mike that day to help him figure out how we could help him conquer his fear, that really was the point of why we did rappelling at that camp in the first place. Faith to overcome fear.